Get OUT of the Expectation Trap!

Expectations! We all have them.  When our expectations collide with our reality, it is what I call “expectality”.  Sometimes it can be good—better than we expected—but very often it’s an explosion in our lives. Our expectations can become a trap imprisoning us—robbing our joy and peace, and ruining relationships. How do we get out of this expectation trap?  Some suggest we should just not have any expectations and then we won’t be disappointed. I think that tends to be a bit fatalistic and an attitude that can stunt growth in our life. God has purpose even the hard places of our lives, even in our disappointed longings and expectations.  God has wired us with a sense of expectancy.

I’d like to share some practical steps we can take to GET OUT of the “expectation trap” so our expectations are not ruling our lives, robbing us of joy and ruining our relationships.

We can choose how we will respond to our unfulfilled and disappointed longings! Continue reading “Get OUT of the Expectation Trap!”

Get Real! Expectations

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Do you have dreams, desires, and expectations that have yet to be fulfilled? Are there disappointed longings in your life?  Is there a specific request you have been waiting patiently for God to answer?  Is there something you are groaning and yearning for?  Do you feel like a plane in a holding pattern…circling…waiting to land?  Have your unfulfilled expectations and waiting bred the dreaded 3 D’s?  Discontentment, Disappointment, and Discouragement.

 All too often, our faith tragically fails to flourish because instead of learning to be content regardless of our circumstances, we endlessly strive to rearrange and manipulate the details in our lives, in order to bring about a “temporary joy”― one that never lasts and never fully satisfies. We’re not satisfied with contented dissatisfaction. —Cherie Hill

We’ve all had disappointments in life — circumstances and people have let us down.  I’ve certainly had my share.  There are things I have struggled with for years, circumstances and relationships that I’d hope would change or improve.  So what are we supposed to do with all these disappointed longings?  Are they normal?  Is there something wrong with us? Continue reading “Get Real! Expectations”