Get Real! Expectations

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Do you have dreams, desires, and expectations that have yet to be fulfilled? Are there disappointed longings in your life?  Is there a specific request you have been waiting patiently for God to answer?  Is there something you are groaning and yearning for?  Do you feel like a plane in a holding pattern…circling…waiting to land?  Have your unfulfilled expectations and waiting bred the dreaded 3 D’s?  Discontentment, Disappointment, and Discouragement.

 All too often, our faith tragically fails to flourish because instead of learning to be content regardless of our circumstances, we endlessly strive to rearrange and manipulate the details in our lives, in order to bring about a “temporary joy”― one that never lasts and never fully satisfies. We’re not satisfied with contented dissatisfaction. —Cherie Hill

We’ve all had disappointments in life — circumstances and people have let us down.  I’ve certainly had my share.  There are things I have struggled with for years, circumstances and relationships that I’d hope would change or improve.  So what are we supposed to do with all these disappointed longings?  Are they normal?  Is there something wrong with us? Continue reading “Get Real! Expectations”

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Get Real! What exactly does that mean?

real: \ˈrē(-ə)l\

  • of or relating to fixed, permanent or immovable things
  • of or relating to practical or everyday concerns or activities
  • genuine, not artificial, no additives
  • to stop deceiving oneself or fooling around; face reality

Real — it has become a relative term in our world today and hard to know at times what is real and what is not. Things are constantly in a state of flux —from our weather, to our economic and political situation and even our everyday lives at times.  It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of whatever has blown into our lives at the moment.  It’s easy to lose perspective.  It’s easy to become discouraged and feel overwhelmed by all life is throwing at us.  And our tendency and habit is to put on our “happy face” masks and walk around feeling isolated and alone, as if we are the only ones dealing with disappointment, discouragement and defeat.

They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served something created instead of the Creator, who is praised forever. —Romans 1:25

So where do we go for answers and how do we find purpose, joy, contentment and peace in the midst of life’s craziness? Continue reading “Get Real!”

Expectality in 2014

Expectations.  We all have them.  Often they rule and reign in our lives creating stress, frustration and discontent.  They can ruin relationships.  They can sour our attitudes.  But we all have them.  So what’s a girl to do?  I’ve been mulling this idea over quite a bit in the last year.  It’s not necessarily the expectations that are the problem, but rather “expectality”.  Don’t bother looking it up.  It’s a made up word.  When I find myself stressed, frustrated and discontent because my expectations have been thwarted, dashed or unmet, this is the state known as “expectality”.  It’s when my expectations collide with my reality.  For me (and perhaps you), it’s really a control issue.  I want to control situations and outcomes.  I want to be comfortable, happy and content.  I want my way.  But…that’s not life.  Jesus said it perfectly before He left earth, “…in the world you WILL have trouble…”.  It’s a truth none of us will argue with, to be sure!  The answer to dealing with “expectality” in life lies in the “BUT” statement that follows in this verse.  I think we often overlook and forget this… Continue reading “Expectality in 2014”