The Love-Walk: Responding Like Jesus

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. —Ephesians 5:1-2

We began our Walk in Love study with the word Remember!  Remember, you are the beloved of the Father—You are loved by God so deeply!

We are to REMEMBER we are loved, so that we might RESPOND like Jesus—to love as Christ loved us, giving Himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

This love-walk is not always an easy path. How do I respond when: Continue reading “The Love-Walk: Responding Like Jesus”

4 C’s of Relationships

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We were doing some purging and cleaning this weekend at our home.  As I was sorting through stacks of papers in my desk drawer, I ran across some handouts from a marriage study my husband and I led last year (Stay Married for Life by Dan Seaborn).  In one of the lessons the author described four levels of friendship and encouraged us to evaluate where we were in our relationship with our spouse.  The goal of course being Confidants.    Here’s the list:

  • Chums — friends whose interests overlap yours in certain areas; you have conversations because they are convenient. You get to know surface details like name, age, education, job, etc. (i.e. like same music, gym membership, kids same age, work in same building).
  • Companions — friends who spend time together on semi-regular basis. Not just bumping into each other but you make time for each other, committed to friendship so you plan activities together, conversation aren’t merely facts and friendship is strong enough to share opinions on important issues, not afraid to disagree, don’t disclose everything and moved beyond surface but friendship is still shallow.
  • Comrades — friends who want to talk even on an off day, relationship enjoyable but it’s not limited to fun only, typically you’ve walked through meaningful circumstances together, seen the good and bad in each other and still like each other, enjoy being around and can be yourself with them, trust enough to share fears and concerns, beliefs and pursuits, problems and pain, ask for advice and often take it.
  • Confidants — friends who know you to the core. More than only details and specifics, they KNOW you! Know your dreams, history, successes, disappointments, sources of joy and grief, strengths and weaknesses. Feel comfortable telling them everything, nothing off limits, seek them out when you need someone to celebrate with or cry with. Their opinions matter, spent enough time with you to recognize your emotions and pinpoint behavior patterns. They understand why you react and behave the way you do. They get you and the closeness of your relationship is the proof.


This got me thinking about other relationships in my life, and who fit where in this list of 4 C’s.   Continue reading “4 C’s of Relationships”